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[mk_tortie]

I've come to realise recently that some people on LJ see the whole thing very differently to me. I see the point of having friends on my f-list as a group of people who I possibly have a common interest with, or just generally found nice/interesting and added, and some of them added me back, and the point of reading their entries is to find out interesting things and to occasionally contribute something to them. I don't see it as my 'duty' to comment. I don't believe my LJ friends should feel obliged to comment back. It's nice to hear from you all sometimes, but if I don't I'm not offended. Some LJ-ers expect constant contribution, or they de-friend... I don't quite get that. I don't think I've ever de-friended someone. Even if I don't read every entry someone posts, I still read some of them. I guess I'm just pretty laid-back when it comes to the old f-list.

What do you guys all think? This isn't meant to be a pointed comment at anyone on my f-list at all, this is just observation from my recent forays into adding comms!

And GIP because Black Books is amazing :)

Comments

[itsfirefight.livejournal.com]

I see it the same way. The only reason I will take someone off my friends list is if I read their entries and they make me go, "Ugh. This person is horrible/unintellegent/annoying/whatever!"

I like adding people who I have things in common with, but have some comepletely opposite interests... It's fun to learn about something that is so totally different that normal, or even get a second perspective about something you like a lot and they may not like as much...

Ack! I could go on for pages so I'll go ahead and stop here with an, "I know exactly what you mean, I think!"

[mk-tortie.livejournal.com]

The only reason I will take someone off my friends list is if I read their entries and they make me go, "Ugh. This person is horrible/unintellegent/annoying/whatever!"

That's the only reason I would have too, but I've never de-friended someone who hasn't de-friended me first. And I'm so glad you agree, I was worried that I would post this and half my f-list would go 'what? You don't think commenting is necessary?! defrienddefrienddefriend...' Heh, glad I was just being paranoid :)

[king-josie.livejournal.com]

I see LJ the same way you do. I'm also quite bad at leaving comments - i should do more!
I'd defriend someone if the stuff they're posting disagreed with me in some way - like they had an extreme view on something that upset me.

[mk-tortie.livejournal.com]

I'm also quite bad at leaving comments - i should do more!

I tell myself that sometimes, and then I think, well, if I haven't left comments because I haven't had time/haven't had anything interesting to say, then what's the point in beating myself up over it? Glad you agree with me though, I wondered if I was going start something controversial by posting this! It's just been bugging me a bit, heh. I agree with you as well though, if someone posted something that actually made me angry/upset with them, then I'd probably de-friend them.

[scidae.livejournal.com]

I totally agree with your entry & this comment especially.
Some people really take this whole lj-world way too serious.

[aodh.livejournal.com]

I agree 100%. I don't comment much because, well, I don't have much to say. I don't know everything about your circumstances/your life, so how can I comment on every single entry? If something catches my eye, then yeah, I'll comment, but I'm not going to go out of my way to do so. I feel the same way about whoever reads my journal - it's awesome that you're out there, but you shouldn't feel obligated to comment.

There's a big difference between commenting because you actually have something to say and/or contribute and commenting because you think that's what you should do.

[anna-in-the-sky.livejournal.com]

Agree with everything you said. If I find the time and have something to say, I comment. Otherwise, I don't, and I assume everyone else on my flist is the same. No hard feelings.